Men are expected to be confident at all times, very sure in themselves. They talk themselves up, brag, and we all smile and go along with it. When they express doubt and worry about themselves, it makes people uncomfortable… or worse, they mock those men for it, call them “womanly” or “weak” (synonyms in this society)
On the flip side, women are expected to never be confident. Or at least not too confident. We have to dance along this delicate line of healthy self-deprecation and self-assuredness. We can never say “I am beautiful” without qualifiers (“my hair is beautiful but my face isn’t” “my legs are beautiful but my arms aren’t”, etc)… if we do, we’re branded as self-centered and egotistical. We are instead constantly questioning ourselves, our worth, our actions… and it’s fine. Expected, even. But here comes that delicate line, because if we do it too much, we’re drama queens or demanding attention/pity etc etc.
No one wins in this. No one. Men can’t show themselves as they truly are without ridicule, women can’t rise above constantly beating themselves up over every little thing without some one else doing it for us to “keep us in our place”. Everyone loses.