people who manage to keep the same url/theme for more than a month are strong and inspiring and should not be messed with

Or lazy, lazy also works.
(I’ve also been Avron practically everywhere online for nearly 15 years now, I’m not changing.)


“does anyone else-” yes

“am i the only one who-” no

“is it weird that i-” probably not

In a classic experiment, the psychologist J. Philippe Rushton gave 140 elementary- and middle-school-age children tokens for winning a game, which they could keep entirely or donate some to a child in poverty. They first watched a teacher figure play the game either selfishly or generously, and then preach to them the value of taking, giving or neither. The adult’s influence was significant: Actions spoke louder than words. When the adult behaved selfishly, children followed suit. The words didn’t make much difference — children gave fewer tokens after observing the adult’s selfish actions, regardless of whether the adult verbally advocated selfishness or generosity. When the adult acted generously, students gave the same amount whether generosity was preached or not — they donated 85 percent more than the norm in both cases. When the adult preached selfishness, even after the adult acted generously, the students still gave 49 percent more than the norm. Children learn generosity not by listening to what their role models say, but by observing what they do.
"Raising a Moral Child"

By our actions we will be known. This is a thing I struggle with.

Consider the results from a 2013 study of more than 24,000 students from 22 different American colleges. When asked if they’d lose respect for a man or a woman who “hooked up a lot,” 28 percent of men said “yes” for a woman but “no” for a man. (Only 4 percent of women said the same thing.) Another 2013 study of almost 8,000 students at a Midwestern university arrived at a similar conclusion: Both men and women disapproved more of a woman who had casual sex (defined as sex with someone whom they’ve known for less than one month) than of a man. Even more interestingly, these studies reveal that guys who seek out casual sex are the ones who are more likely to disrespect females with the same interest. For example, in one study referenced, each additional hookup reported was associated with a 4 percent increase in the odds of men holding the double standard (while the opposite was true of women). To put it another way, “sluttier” men are more likely to slut-shame women—or at least, hold negative views toward women whose promiscuity approximates their own. This not only exposes a serious hypocrisy, but it seems counterproductive: Disrespecting women on whom your casual sex depends can only lower your chances of finding willing partners in the future, right? So why would slutty guys feel this way?
Breast pumps are for working mothers, babies in the NICU, for nights with the babysitter. They are for mothers who are separated from their children or are struggling to breastfeed a child who cannot latch. They are for donating milk to children who need it. They are for many reasons and not one of them has to do with protecting society from the sight of a nursing woman.
14. Men with facial hair have something to hide.

(via rulesformyunbornson, rulesformyunbornson)

Probably true, but I’m not sure what.


Why do people never want to tell you their middle name like who gives a shit its not a nuclear launch code its your damn name

I never really understood this either. My Facebook profile has my middle name showing and I think at least a couple of other places do as well.
The only time I wasn’t okay telling people my middle name was as a young child when the other children tried to tease me about it.


To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video

I was not expecting the end. I laughed.

He waited until the train was in motion to make his move—a true sign of someone who knows how to make the environment work to their advantage. Then he leaned forward. “Hi.” “How you doing?” “What are you reading?” “What’s your name?” “I really like your hair.” “That’s a really nice skirt.” “You must work out.”

It was painful to watch. She clearly wanted nothing to do with him, and he clearly wasn’t going to take the hint. Her rebukes got firmer. “I’d like to read my book.” And he pulled out the social pressure. “Hey, I’m just asking you a question. You don’t have to be so rude.” She started to look around for outs. Her head swivelled from one exit to another.

The thing was, I had already heard this story, many many times. I knew how it would play out. I knew all the tropes. I probably could have quoted the lines before they said them. I wanted a new narrative. Time to mix it up.

So I moved seats until I was sitting behind him. I leaned forward with my head on the back of his seat.

"Hi," I said with a little smile.

He looked at me like I was a little crazy—which isn’t exactly untrue—and turned back to her.

"How are you doing?" I asked.

"I’m fine," he said flatly without ever looking back.

"I really like your hair," I said. “It looks soft."

That’s about when it got…..weird.

He sort of half turned and glared back me, and I could tell I was pissing him off. His eyes told me to back the hell away, and his lips were pressed together tightly enough to drain the color from them completely.

But no good story ever ends with the conflict just defusing. He started to turn back to her.

"Wait, don’t be like that," I said. “Lemmie just ask you one question…"

"What!" he said in that you-have-clearly-gone-too-far voice that is part of the freshmen year finals at the school of machismo.

And I’m not exactly a hundred percent sure why I didn’t call it a day at that point, but…..maybe I just love turning the screw to see what happens. I gave him the bedroomy-est eyes I could muster. “What’s your name?”

Right now I’m sitting here typing out this story, and I’m still not entirely sure why I’m not nursing a fat lip or a black eye. Because that obviously made him so mad that I still am not sure why it didn’t come to blows. There are cliches about eyes flaring and rage behind someones eyes and shit like that that are so overdone. But it really does look like that. When someone gets violent, their eyes just kind of “pop” with intention—pupils dilate, eyelids widen. And his did. Even sitting down he was clearly bigger than me and I was pretty sure he was kind of muscular too, so at that moment I was figuring I was probably going to need an ice pack and sympathy sex from my girlfriend by day’s end.

"DUDE," he shouted. “I’M NOT GAY."

That’s when I dropped the bedroom eyes and switched to a normal voice. “Oh well I could see not being interested didn’t matter to you when you were hitting on her, so I just thought that’s how you rolled.”

Writing About Writing (And Occasionally Some Writing): Changing The Creepy Guy Narrative (via veruca-assault)

instant reblog

(via koi-ms)

Holy shit.
I cant believe I almost scrolled past this.

(via wonderboygirlsadventures)

this post is gold

(via crimsdunonchalance)

I wish I had the capacity to recognise situations like this. And the balls to emulate the writer when I did.


why are men so afraid of women having leg hair???????? women have to put up with ur chest hair and back hair and gross pubic hair and scratchy facial hair all the time and u dont shave that bc ‘it takes too much time’ like…????? ok thanks for ur hypocrisy u dried up sink sponge

Men are idiots. They’ve also been conditioned by the media.


My relationship with all of my friends

I have a couple of friends that pretend to do this sort of thing when they want me to go out with them. I should be out with them now but I ate something I shouldn’t have just before the first contact.


My relationship with all of my friends

I have a couple of friends that pretend to do this sort of thing when they want me to go out with them. I should be out with them now but I ate something I shouldn’t have just before the first contact.

by sam wilson (and sometimes natasha)

listen | download (contains two additional tracks)
eras: 1950s | 1960s | 1970s | 1980s | 1990s | 2000-2010 | 2010 - current

♪ at last | etta james
♪ runaway | del shannon
♪ stand by me | ben e king
♪ green onions | booker t and the mg’s
♪ come see about me | the supremes
♪ shake sugaree | elizabeth cotton
♪ a change is gonna come | sam cooke
♪ i’m waiting for the man | the velvet underground
♪ eleanor rigby | the beatles
♪ do you love me | the contours
♪ i hear a symphony | the supremes
♪ in my life | the beatles
♪ feeling good | nina simone
♪ papa’s got a brand new bag | james brown
♪ get ready | the temptations
♪ i heard it through the grapevine | marvin gaye
♪ hey jude | the beatles
♪ hold on i’m comin’ | sam and dave
♪ louie louie | the kingsmen
♪ love man | otis redding
♪ my girl | the temptations
♪ people get ready | the impressions
♪ ramble on | led zeppelin
♪ gimme shelter | the rolling stones
♪ respect | aretha franklin
♪ save the last dance for me | the drifters
♪ sittin’ on the dock of the bay | otis redding
♪ someday we’ll be together | the supremes
♪ space oddity | david bowie
♪ the monster mash | bobby pickett the
♪ thrill is gone | bb king
♪ then he kissed me | the crystals
♪ these boots are made for walkin’ | nancy sinatra
♪ tighten up | archie bell and the drells
♪ be my baby | the ronettes
♪ unchained melody | the righteous brothers
♪ waterloo sunset | the kinks
♪ river deep, mountain high | tina turner
♪ what is and should never be | led zeppelin
♪ will you still love me tomorrow | the shirelles
♪ abraham, martin and john | dion
♪ are you experienced | the jimi hendrix experience
♪ the weight | the band
♪ chain gang | sam cooke
♪ chain of fools | aretha franklin
♪ i want you back | the jackson 5
♪ cry to me | soloman burke
♪ somebody to love | jefferson airplane
♪ dance to the music | sly and the family stone
♪ fortunate son | creedence clearwater revival
♪ crosstown traffic | the jimi hendrix experience
♪ blowin’ in the wind | bob dylan
♪ what a wonderful world | louis armstrong

Barring the Beatles songs, which didn’t seem to show up, I think I’ve added all these to a Spotify playlist

Law Enforcement: If you're ever being robbed, just do what the attacker says and don't fight back so you can avoid further injury and get to a safe place.
Law Enforcement: You didn't say no or fight back, so it doesn't count as rape.