Bros, This Is How Your Slut-Shaming Is Backfiring. A Sex Researcher Explains (via ryeisenberg)
hypocrisy at its finest
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Why do people never want to tell you their middle name like who gives a shit its not a nuclear launch code its your damn name
I never really understood this either. My Facebook profile has my middle name showing and I think at least a couple of other places do as well.
The only time I wasn’t okay telling people my middle name was as a young child when the other children tried to tease me about it.
I was not expecting the end. I laughed.
He waited until the train was in motion to make his move—a true sign of someone who knows how to make the environment work to their advantage. Then he leaned forward. “Hi.” “How you doing?” “What are you reading?” “What’s your name?” “I really like your hair.” “That’s a really nice skirt.” “You must work out.”
It was painful to watch. She clearly wanted nothing to do with him, and he clearly wasn’t going to take the hint. Her rebukes got firmer. “I’d like to read my book.” And he pulled out the social pressure. “Hey, I’m just asking you a question. You don’t have to be so rude.” She started to look around for outs. Her head swivelled from one exit to another.
The thing was, I had already heard this story, many many times. I knew how it would play out. I knew all the tropes. I probably could have quoted the lines before they said them. I wanted a new narrative. Time to mix it up.
So I moved seats until I was sitting behind him. I leaned forward with my head on the back of his seat.
"Hi," I said with a little smile.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy—which isn’t exactly untrue—and turned back to her.
"How are you doing?" I asked.
"I’m fine," he said flatly without ever looking back.
"I really like your hair," I said. “It looks soft."
That’s about when it got…..weird.
He sort of half turned and glared back me, and I could tell I was pissing him off. His eyes told me to back the hell away, and his lips were pressed together tightly enough to drain the color from them completely.
But no good story ever ends with the conflict just defusing. He started to turn back to her.
"Wait, don’t be like that," I said. “Lemmie just ask you one question…"
"What!" he said in that you-have-clearly-gone-too-far voice that is part of the freshmen year finals at the school of machismo.
And I’m not exactly a hundred percent sure why I didn’t call it a day at that point, but…..maybe I just love turning the screw to see what happens. I gave him the bedroomy-est eyes I could muster. “What’s your name?”
Right now I’m sitting here typing out this story, and I’m still not entirely sure why I’m not nursing a fat lip or a black eye. Because that obviously made him so mad that I still am not sure why it didn’t come to blows. There are cliches about eyes flaring and rage behind someones eyes and shit like that that are so overdone. But it really does look like that. When someone gets violent, their eyes just kind of “pop” with intention—pupils dilate, eyelids widen. And his did. Even sitting down he was clearly bigger than me and I was pretty sure he was kind of muscular too, so at that moment I was figuring I was probably going to need an ice pack and sympathy sex from my girlfriend by day’s end.
"DUDE," he shouted. “I’M NOT GAY."
That’s when I dropped the bedroom eyes and switched to a normal voice. “Oh well I could see not being interested didn’t matter to you when you were hitting on her, so I just thought that’s how you rolled.”
this post is gold
I wish I had the capacity to recognise situations like this. And the balls to emulate the writer when I did.
why are men so afraid of women having leg hair???????? women have to put up with ur chest hair and back hair and gross pubic hair and scratchy facial hair all the time and u dont shave that bc ‘it takes too much time’ like…????? ok thanks for ur hypocrisy u dried up sink sponge
Men are idiots. They’ve also been conditioned by the media.
My relationship with all of my friends
I have a couple of friends that pretend to do this sort of thing when they want me to go out with them. I should be out with them now but I ate something I shouldn’t have just before the first contact.
PUT IT ON THE LIST: A MIX FOR STEVE ROGERS (1960-1969)
by sam wilson (and sometimes natasha)
listen | download (contains two additional tracks)
eras: 1950s | 1960s | 1970s | 1980s | 1990s | 2000-2010 | 2010 - current
♪ at last | etta james
♪ runaway | del shannon
♪ stand by me | ben e king
♪ green onions | booker t and the mg’s
♪ come see about me | the supremes
♪ shake sugaree | elizabeth cotton
♪ a change is gonna come | sam cooke
♪ i’m waiting for the man | the velvet underground
♪ eleanor rigby | the beatles
♪ do you love me | the contours
♪ i hear a symphony | the supremes
♪ in my life | the beatles
♪ feeling good | nina simone
♪ papa’s got a brand new bag | james brown
♪ get ready | the temptations
♪ i heard it through the grapevine | marvin gaye
♪ hey jude | the beatles
♪ hold on i’m comin’ | sam and dave
♪ louie louie | the kingsmen
♪ love man | otis redding
♪ my girl | the temptations
♪ people get ready | the impressions
♪ ramble on | led zeppelin
♪ gimme shelter | the rolling stones
♪ respect | aretha franklin
♪ save the last dance for me | the drifters
♪ sittin’ on the dock of the bay | otis redding
♪ someday we’ll be together | the supremes
♪ space oddity | david bowie
♪ the monster mash | bobby pickett the
♪ thrill is gone | bb king
♪ then he kissed me | the crystals
♪ these boots are made for walkin’ | nancy sinatra
♪ tighten up | archie bell and the drells
♪ be my baby | the ronettes
♪ unchained melody | the righteous brothers
♪ waterloo sunset | the kinks
♪ river deep, mountain high | tina turner
♪ what is and should never be | led zeppelin
♪ will you still love me tomorrow | the shirelles
♪ abraham, martin and john | dion
♪ are you experienced | the jimi hendrix experience
♪ the weight | the band
♪ chain gang | sam cooke
♪ chain of fools | aretha franklin
♪ i want you back | the jackson 5
♪ cry to me | soloman burke
♪ somebody to love | jefferson airplane
♪ dance to the music | sly and the family stone
♪ fortunate son | creedence clearwater revival
♪ crosstown traffic | the jimi hendrix experience
♪ blowin’ in the wind | bob dylan
♪ what a wonderful world | louis armstrong
Barring the Beatles songs, which didn’t seem to show up, I think I’ve added all these to a Spotify playlist
do men have resting bitch faces as well or do they not have negative characteristics ascribed to them for putting on a neutral rather than a deliriously happy facial expression
My resting face is such that my parents constantly asked what was wrong when I was a teenager.
- Boys, on average, spend two fewer hours doing household chores per week than girls do (they play two hours more).
- If they live in households where children are compensated for doing chores, boys make and save more money.
- A 2009 study conducted by University of Michigan economists found a two-hour gender disparity in responsibilities per week in a study of 3,000 kids.
- 75 percent of girls had chores, while just 65 percent of boys do
- This disparity in chores and free time continues into adulthood all over the world. According to the Organisation of Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD), men “report spending more time in activities counted as leisure than women. Gender differences in leisure time are wide across OECD countries.”
- Year after year, studies repeatedly confirm these patterns.
- The problems women face with unequal pay and housework duties actually start in childhood.
- The fact that boys’ chores appear to be more profitable makes the childhood chore gap even more disturbing. Turns out, parents tend to value the work that boys do more.
- Gender stereotypes dictate these patterns.
- men who grow up with sisters do less housework than their spouses and are also significantly more socially conservative.
Just had to bold that bottom point there because of the amount of misogynists who claim that because they have women in their family, they can’t POSSIBLY be sexist ever.
oh my fucking god
I vividly remember all the families in my church where the grade-school boys were goofing off with toys and the girls were being handed younger babies and turned into babysitters.Boys got to be boys, but girls had to be Moms.
Really, it ‘s a serious drag that even little girls today could answer #WithoutTheWageGapIWould
In the category of, I’m blind to things until they’re pointed out to me.
Aside that he is the devil, he is being nice to the disabled
Am I first to think that those spots will be of little use to those needing them. As soon as another vehicle parks beside them access becomes almost entirely useless.