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meet the blogger

LAYER ONE: THE OUTSIDE

  • Name: Gareth
  • Eye colour: brown
  • Hair style/color: long straight ginger hair with no effort made to maintain it
  • Height: 1670mm or thereabouts
  • Clothing style: comfortable (and cheap)
  • Best physical feature: I have no idea

LAYER TWO: THE INSIDE

  • Your fears: being the center of attention
  • Your guilty pleasure: I don’t think I have any, either I like something or I don’t
  • Ambitions for the future: none

LAYER THREE: THOUGHTS

  • Your first thoughts waking up: Depends on the day; sometimes it’s “Why is my back sore?” sometimes its’ “Why didn’t I go to bed earlier?”, this morning it was “Why did I have a dream with my ex and some of her family spending time in my old high school?”
  • What you think about most: Board games probably
  • What you think about before bed: Why am I alone?
  • You think your best quality is: I’m patient, very slow to anger, have better stamina than seems reasonable. Probably one of those.

LAYER FOUR: WHAT’S BETTER?

  • Single or group dates: I haven’t really been on a “date”, of either sort
  • To be loved or respected: I don’t think you can be loved if you aren’t also respected
  • Beauty or brains: brains
  • Dogs or cats: Cats

LAYER FIVE: DO YOU

  • Lie? Far more than people realise, but less than I used to
  • Believe in yourself? I exist, I think. It’s hard to get objective confirmation of that.
  • Believe in love? Yes
  • Want someone? Frequently

LAYER SIX: EVER

  • Been on stage? A small number of times, I don’t like it.
  • Done drugs? no
  • Changed who you were to fit in? Not really, I learnt early on it didn’t work. I can’t maintain that facade.

LAYER SEVEN: FAVOURITES

  • Colour: blue
  • Animal: kitten
  • Movie: The Princess Bride (although having watched it with my most recent ex has tainted the memory some)
  • Game: Agricola (board), Heroes of Might & Magic III (video)
about the blogger

BASICS:
name: Gareth
birthday: not quite St. Patricks Day
zodiac: Pisces
single or taken: taken
height: 1670mm or thereabouts
eye color: brown
favorite colour: blue
lucky number: 13

SPECIFICS/DETAILS:
hogwarts house:
favorite fictional character: Miles Vorkosigan
favourite television show: Babylon 5
favourite season: Summer. It doesn’t get too hot here for me.
describe yourself in a few words: More intelligent than my job indicates, less introverted than I used to be, more selfish than people realise.
future children’s names: Not likely to be an issue.
meaning of your name: Something to do with weaponry
what do you plan to/do for a living: I shift paper
starbucks order: I’ve never once set foot in a Starbucks. (left this here from Iain’s answer)

THIS OR THAT:
introvert or extrovert
dawn or dusk
righty or lefty
coffee or tea Milo
rain or shine
reading or writing

xwatchmerise:

merosse:

If u see a guy with long hair he’s either gorgeous or fucking weird and the answer lays in what type of shoe he’s wearing

This is the best post I’ve ever read

:) Now, I’m not the best judge of attractiveness, but I’m reasonably sure I don’t meet the criteria for gorgeous. I don’t have any issue with accepting the weird descriptor though.

Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.
inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via swiftbeat)

(via radhomo)
fuzzykitty01:

bouncybat:

shuraiya:

I’M SCREAMING
HE’S DRYING HIS LITTLE FACE
OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOOOOOOOODDDDDDD

WHAT

OHMYGOSSSSSSSSSH

fuzzykitty01:

bouncybat:

shuraiya:

I’M SCREAMING

HE’S DRYING HIS LITTLE FACE

OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOOOOOOOODDDDDDD

WHAT

OHMYGOSSSSSSSSSH

what do you think are the best pro choice arguments??

southern-feminism:

  • Bodily autonomy is the most important argument because it’s bulletproof, really. Bodily autonomy is an unwritten law that says no one can use your body without your consent, which is why (most) humans automatically understand why rape is wrong and why you have to be an organ donor in life for your organs to be taken after your death. Fetuses do not have bodily autonomy because they are not autonomous. Anti-choicers sometimes try to derail at this point and accuse you of ableism, because many disabled people are dependent on others. It is important to remind them that disabled people are still autonomous, because they don’t live inside the body of another person and suck up their nutrients. If abortion is illegal, dead people will officially have more rights than pregnant people (because a dead person’s organs can’t be used if they aren’t an organ donor).
  • Outlawing abortion will not stop abortion, but make it less safe. As high as 1.2 million people died attempting unsafe and illegal abortions between 1880 and 1973, and thousands more were injured[x]. Abortions are going to happen no matter what, so if anti-choicers really care about pregnant people, they had better simmer down and let abortion be.
  • Fetuses cannot feel and do not have a sense of mortal danger. There are no detectable brain waves that would translate to pain or fear until 28 weeks. An abortion after 28 weeks only happens under special circumstances, and the fetus is euthanized before a 3rd-trimester abortion, meaning it feels none of the abortion
  • A heartbeat does not make something alive. There is this thing called  Electroencephalography (EEG), which records brain activity. If someone has no EEG activity, they are declared brain dead. Some say that fetuses don’t have brainwaves detectable by EEG until a certain point, while some say they don’t at all until birth.
  • Life does not equal personhood. The biological definition of life is something that is made of cells and has the ability to grow and reproduce. Animals are alive. Trees are alive. Bacteria are alive. Are they people? No.
  • Many anti-choicers claim that legal abortion in the First World is dangerous, which is not true. Not only is legal abortion safe, here are some things that are unsafe: inducing miscarriage with drugs without physician discretion, placing foreign objects up the vagina to induce miscarriage, douching with harsh chemicals, ingesting chemicals to induce miscarriage, and self-inflicted trauma to the abdomen caused by punching/falling/etc. (all methods of abortion pre-Roe). Many doctors agree that surgical abortion by the cut-off date is easier than wisdom teeth extraction, and very early abortions are more difficult to mess up than a tooth extraction. Pregnancy and childbirth are actually more dangerous than legal surgical abortion. Every minute in the US, at least one person dies from a complication related to pregnancy/childbirth, which is 287,000 a year[x]. Even more get sick or injured from these complications, about 10 million per year[x]. Approximately 400 people have died from abortion since Roe v. Wade ruling, which means 400 people in 40 years dead from legal abortion compared to approximately 11,767,000 dead from pregnancy/childbirth. Pregnancy/childbirth has killed over 27,000 times more people than legal abortion.
  • Adoption is not always the answer. Adoption does not make someone unpregnant, and they still have to go through the agony of pregnancy (if you don’t want to be pregnant, it can be truly agonizing) for 9 months. Also, adoption isn’t even the best for the fetus. Being put up for adoption can lead to catastrophe for many children, and there are already so many children waiting to be adopted.
  • A tiring argument from anti-choicers is that abortion is “racist” because PoC get abortions more than white people. First of all, the people who argue this are putting all this money into shaming people out of abortions when they could be making donations to help fix the socioeconomic gap between Black/Latin@ and white people, so they have no place to talk about abortion being racist. Secondly, if abortion is racist, so is adoption! Look at this:
    Who in their right mind would shame a Black person out of their abortion, telling them to choose adoption instead, knowing that the child probably won’t be adopted outside of a pre-planned adoption?
  • A lot of anti-choicers will claim that sex is only for pro-creation, therefore it’s only fair to punish people for having sex with an unwanted pregnancy. This actually isn’t true. If human sex were only for procreation, the clitoris would not exist.
  • I’ve experienced a lot of anti-choicers claiming elective abortion based on fetal abnormality/disability is ableist, which is pretty ironic of them to say considering not everyone who can get pregnant is fit to be pregnant and have a child (often due to disabilities), but anti-choicers think they should be forced to no matter what. That is ableist.
  • Right to life does not trump everything else. If an anti-choicer claims it does, be sure to ask them why they haven’t donated one of their kidneys, a few lung lobes, bone marrow, blood, liver pieces, etc., because everyone deserves to live more than each person deserves rights over their own body, right?
  • "Women deserve better." A bit cissexist, but, yes, pregnant people do deserve better (link).
  • Abortion is a constitutional right (in the US)! It isn’t written explicitly in the US Constitution, but the Supreme Court declared it a constitutional right under Amendments 1, 3, 4, 5, 9, and 14 during Roe v. Wade.
  • If an anti-choicer compares abortion rates to genocide, be sure to define genocide for them. Genocide is targeting and deliberately killing a specific group. The Holocaust was Jewish people, the Rwandan Genocide was the Tutsis, and, in Colonial US, it was Native Americans. Fetuses are not aborted for one discriminatory reason. Abortion is not genocide because no specific group is deliberately killing fetuses because they are fetuses. People don’t get pregnant and say, “Ew, a fetus, kill it.” Also, remind them that, if abortion were the monstrosity they claim it is, they wouldn’t have to compare it to something else (the Holocaust, African slavery, etc.) to get their point across. We don’t compare 9/11 or the Holocaust to anything else because people automatically understand how bad they are when they are explained, without comparisons.
  • Anti-choice beliefs are misogynistic. Even for pregnant people who don’t identify as women, anti-abortion movements against them are a form of misogyny because they are basically being punished for having the parts necessary for pregnancy(vagina, uterus, etc.). When you tell someone they shouldn’t be able to abort a pregnancy, you are also telling them they don’t have or deserve control over their body. You’re saying a being with no sentience has more rights over this person because they are the one with the vagina (notice, the penis in the situation still has control over their body), which is misogyny. Suggesting that a person not get an abortion also suggests that pregnancy and childbirth aren’t that bad. When you call the pregnant person wanting an abortion a murderer, and don’t say anything to the penis-person who may or may not have played a part in the decision, you are being a misogynist.
  • Abortion occurs in nature. When a nonhuman animal is pregnant at a bad time, they will electively abort. Some animals eat poisonous plants, and some even walk through spaces too small for them to crush the fetus. All so they won’t give birth to a baby they can’t feed.
  • Elective abortion is a maternal instinct. Some anti-choicers vocally wonder why people can have abortions, saying it conflicts with maternal instincts, but, if you look at nonhuman animals and why they abort, you see that abortion is maternal instinct, to save a child from being born unwanted/very sick. Also, that’s a sexist thing to say because not everyone with a vagina has a proper maternal instinct, or child abuse by mothers would never happen.
  • Even if someone will not let the idea go that abortion is murder, it’s justifiable homicide, self-defense. Having something inside of you that you don’t want in there is a medical urgency. When that thing is violating your bodily autonomy, it is self-defense to kill it.
  • Abortion does not cause breast cancer. All studies that say so show a correlation, but no evidence of cause, and the studies are very specific to certain type of women (same race and age).
A slightly less depressing chart of the 2014 NZ election results a day after voting closed. The Uncounted votes have been added to the Did not vote column in most of the graphs I’ve seen so far. More information here.

Image was copied from a friend of a friend on Facebook. Values were taken from here.

A slightly less depressing chart of the 2014 NZ election results a day after voting closed. The Uncounted votes have been added to the Did not vote column in most of the graphs I’ve seen so far. More information here.

Image was copied from a friend of a friend on Facebook. Values were taken from here.

p-oison-lips:
I hate that there are still people that would call me a slut for posting this photo. im proud of my body, and I dont believe showing it defines me as a person. So if you have a issue with it, then thats your problem not mine :)

Men defining women:A slut is a woman that has sex with a man other than himA prude is a woman that doesn’t have sex, even though he wants her to.A bitch is a woman that tells him it’s none of her business who she has sex with.

p-oison-lips:

I hate that there are still people that would call me a slut for posting this photo. im proud of my body, and I dont believe showing it defines me as a person.
So if you have a issue with it, then thats your problem not mine :)

Men defining women:
A slut is a woman that has sex with a man other than him
A prude is a woman that doesn’t have sex, even though he wants her to.
A bitch is a woman that tells him it’s none of her business who she has sex with.

unamusedsloth:

Do it again! Do it again!

unamusedsloth:

Do it again! Do it again!

I had nothing better to do so I signed up so I could find them all. Having absolutely zero knowledge of the site was not helpful at all, but I did it. I’m quite pleased with myself.

I am very impressed. I found 8 reasonably easily, but that’s because I’ve been using the site for so long. Even knowing what a couple of the pages would be I took a while to find them due to navigation issues.

I’ve used Librarything for more than half a decade to keep track of all my books, and what I read. With it (still) being talk like a pirate day in the USA there is a contest at the moment to find particular pages. I’ve already got a lifetime membership (which is needed to catalogue more than 200 books) but anyone that finds 6 of the 10 treasures gets that as a reward.
I’m not sure when the contest ends, so there’s a good chance that it’ll be over by the time most people read this…

Tony Porter: A Call To Men
"Tony is the original visionary and co-founder behind A CALL TO MEN: The National Association of Men and Women Committed to Ending Violence Against Women. He is the author of "Well Meaning Men...Breaking Out of the Man Box - Ending Violence Against Women" and the visionary for the book, NFL Dads Dedicated to Daughters.

Tony's message of accountability is welcome and supported by many grassroots and established organizations. He’s currently working with numerous domestic and sexual violence programs, the National Football League, the National Basketball Association, colleges and universities around the country. He has worked with the United States Military Academy at West Point and the United States Naval Academy at Annapolis.

Tony is an international lecturer for the U.S. State Department having worked in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, United Kingdom and Brazil. In addition, he has been a guest presenter for the United Nations' Commission on the Status of Women and has been a script consultant for Law & Order: Special Victims Unit." - (x)

corpsereviver2:

solarbird:

suricattus:

unforth:

zerosociety:

knitmeapony:

knitmeapony:

A large part of my adult, career-related life has been lived by Susan Ivanova’s examples and wisdom.

i don’t really know who this is i think she’s from babylon 5 but AWESOME

Oh man.  MAN.  Man.  Lemme tell you about Susan Ivanova.

Susan Ivanova, second in command of Babylon 5, has been through a lot of shit.  First, off, Babylon 5 is a deliberate melting pot of a place where. after a really bad war, different species can come to seek peace.  Earthgov is skeptical about it.  The other species governments are skeptical about it.  As a result, the station often stands between the universe and very bad shit going down. 

Commander Ivanova is in charge of operations.  All the day to day stuff.  She handles it pretty well.

 

Mostly, anyway.

She is not here to put up with anyone’s shit.  Not even if you’re from Earth.

She’s second in command of a station with captains that are perpetually putting themselves and the station through a lot of political… well, ugly politics.  She’s often the one left behind, having to tell folks the Captain is not available and she’s in charge.  Honestly, for having to be the grownup among so many damned children, she’s very well liked. 

She’s not all business, though, she’s a great friend as well as commander, with a lovely, dry, gallows sense of humor.  I’m not sure there’s a person on the station who doesn’t have a private joke or at least a friendly word with her (provided they’re not fucking up her schedule).

Her family is Russian and Jewish, and it actually comes up from time to time.  She occasionally sends a shout out to god (she’s not practicing, iirc, but she still identifies as Jewish and keeps a few traditions), She commentates often on her Russian heritage.

Susan Ivanova: I know, I know. It’s a Russian thing. When we’re about to do something stupid, we like to catalog the full extent of our stupidity for future reference. 

She meets up with family and friends from her past and doesn’t shy away from them:

Lt. Cmdr. Susan Ivanova: So how are things back home? 
Rabbi Koslov: They change, they stay the same. Russia is Russia. Your father used to say: “If regret could be harvested, Russia would be the world’s fruit basket.” 

She had a rough time growing up - her mother was a telepath, and in this universe if you’re telepathic and human you have two options: join a quasi-militaristic organization called the PsiCorps that will immediately take you from your family and control your whole life (they even have a saying: the Corps is Mother.  The Corps is Father.  It’s as chilling as you think,); option two is to take some drugs that suppress your abilities.  Ivanova’s mother chose the second option, and after a long, ugly period suffering under the effects of the drug, she took her own life.

You can imagine Susan is not thrilled with anyone associated with the Psicorps. But when a Psicorps telepath named Talia Winters comes on board, some interesting things happen.

At first she avoids the hell out of her.

But then, eventually, Susan doesn’t mind her so much.

Talia reaches out, and turns up at Susan’s quarters late one night.

They actually become real friends.

And you know, they have scenes like this.

And then, when Talia is gone she confesses:

Susan also later falls in love with a man named Marcus Cole, which means for my money she’s the first bisexual lady in space that I ever saw on TV.  Possibly ever.

For all that though, for her friendships and lovely jokes and cuddly-as-a-cactus-flower appeal, they never ever forget how good she is at her job.  She is shatteringly competent.

She is a military commander, and from time to time, she shows it.

Also, she was airlocking people before it was cool.

The whole crew is in on the airlocking thing, really.  They support her airlocking habits.  It’s lovely of them to do.

In summation:

Commander Susan Ivanova, bisexual Russian Jewish space princess of my heart.  Forever.  Watch this show.

Always share St. Ivanova.

YEESSSS. Babylon 5 fandom, we yet live!!

And did we mention the part where she coopted part of the hydroponics bays so that she could grow coffee to prevent her from committing homicide?

Susan Ivanova is my queen.  Also my rebbe.

(I refuse to call her St Ivanova because what part of “Jewish” are we forgetting, thanks for the erasure).

#another on the endless list of shows I want to get around to watching

YES. Yes, you do. It has its problems, it’s the first show to do all its SFX by computer (Amigas with Video Toaster cards) and sometimes it looks it, and it starts slow but god damn once it gets going it is fucking amazing and awesome.

Also, Ivonava and Talia’s relationship is canon and confirmed and intent, and the only reason it stopped when it did is because Talia’s actress wanted to leave the show to do other things nobody cares about.

I have never watched this show but this makes me want to!

The best show I ever watched.